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 Relationships are fun to be and should be healthy but just as every other thing, There's time for everything and getting into a romantic relationship at a very young age has numerous dangers. Relationship can have both positive and negative effects on individuals especially during adolescent and young adult. The following are potential dangers of early relationship  1.   Lack Of Self Control: Many adolescent especially the ones that just emerged puberty tends to have a rise in need and want of the opposite sex (always wanting to be around). With the rise in regulation of certain hormones like Testosterone, Dopamine, Oxytocin and Estrogen, it becomes so demanding and at this point there's this THIN line between self control & self loss. Many got it all lost due to lack of parental guidance, fear of the unknown and peer group influence and pressure. Adolescent at the stage, steps into sexual urge and desire which is natural and normal. Now engaging in an early relation...

As I sit down to write this post, I am filled with a mix of emotions – frustration, sadness, and concern. The state of our economy, the struggles of everyday life, and the seeming indifference of those in power have left me wondering if there’s any hope for a better tomorrow. The Value of Money Take, for instance, the value of our currency. The prices of basic necessities like rice, beans, and garri have skyrocketed, leaving many to wonder how they’ll make ends meet. And don’t even get me started on the cost of data plans. It’s as if the telecom companies are taking advantage of our desperation to stay connected. I look at the #1000 note in my hand, and I am reminded of the harsh reality of our economy and how light weighted our currency is.This amount, which was once considered a decent sum, can barely buy a few essentials today. A spaghetti, a Derica, or half a mudu of rice or beans – all these staples are now beyond the reach of many Nigerians. Even a loaf of bread, which was once a...

 The love, dating and relationship world is inherently complicated. this minute you're okay but the next minute is uncertain. I will keep kicking against bad relationships regardless of the type, it's hard to forget , experience keep crawling in at every interval especially the bad/hurtful ones.  I thought this experiences will make me a better person but it's not. Involuntarily I react to unnecessary things because of it and at the end I begin to regret..... Each time I realized how I was bad treated, tears keep rolling down my eyes, I was never a priority but deep in my head I thought was even with everything happening but stuck headed me remained there but you won't blame me, I find it difficult to walk away more like I was chained. My heart is broken and I still ask if I will love like before, freely but now I have to tell myself the truth. I love without emotions, emotions only come at interval and no matter how hard it comes I find a way to tame it. I don't wa...

 " HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY TO EVERY WOMAN OUT THERE! To my dear self,I celebrate you today and always. Your journey has been marked by hurdles, but your strength and resilience have led to victorious moments. Living in a society where women's lives are often dictated by societal norms, family expectations, and even self-imposed limitations can be challenging. However, as a woman, you've shown that you're capable of thriving in the face of adversity. Your adaptability, love, and compassion inspire those around you. Being a woman is indeed a beautiful gift, and I'm grateful for the unique experiences and perspectives that come with it. As we celebrate International Women's Day, let's remember the importance of accelerating action towards gender equality ¹. We must continue to challenge biases, stereotypes, and discriminatory practices that hinder women's progress. By supporting one another and advocating for change, we can create a more inclus...

The National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) is a compulsory one-year program for graduates of universities and higher institutions in Nigeria. Established by General Gowon in 1973, immediately after the civil war that its scar still lives on many Nigerians, the program aims to unite the country by bringing together people from different ethnic, religious, and cultural backgrounds.   A Good Program with Room for Improvement In theory, the program is excellent, and its objectives are commendable. However, the reality is that many corps members, including myself, have had a different experience. The program has become a source of frustration and disappointment for many young Nigerians.   The Challenges We Face One of the significant challenges corps members face is the meager monthly allowance of ₦33,000, which barely lasts a week. Many of us struggle to make ends meet, and some even go into debt before the next allowance arrives, at some point the little savings I make end up saving...

  I'm Guilty: Why I Need to Rethink My Relationship Expectations As I sit here reflecting on my relationship expectations, I'm forced to confront some uncomfortable truths. I've always believed that a partner should be able to provide for me, to shower me with gifts and attention. But the reality is, I'm not exactly in a position to be making demands. I'm broke, just like the guys I claim to be too good for   The Hypocrisy of My Expectations is   I've always said that I couldn't date a broke guy, that I needed someone who could take care of me which is not a bad idea but the question is, WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO BETTER YOURSELF? But when I really think about it, that's not only unfair, it's also unrealistic. I'm not exactly rolling in dough myself, so why should I expect someone else to be?  In our days today, relationships, both romantic and non-romantic are seen as a full time job where you must get everything at ease without working for it. Just ...

The Power of Real Love In a world where heartbreak and disappointment can be overwhelming, it's easy to lose faith in love. However, I firmly believe in the transformative power of real love.   What is Real Love? For me, love is not just a feeling, but a state of being. It's the sense of being fully yourself, feeling confident and motivated to grow. Real love is not transactional; it's not about what you can gain or lose. It's about finding someone who accepts and supports you for who you are. The Misconception of Love Many people believe that love requires material possessions or financial security. While these things can certainly make life more comfortable, they are not the foundation of real love. Love is about connection, understanding, and mutual growth.   Can Love Exist Without Meeting Material Needs? This is a common question, and one that I'd like to address. While it's true that our basic needs must be met, real love is not solely dependent on material...

 The Federal Government should focus on meaningful reforms rather than recycling old ideas. Today, we're not discussing the rebranding of NEPA to PHCN or debating bleaching creams and tariff plans. I often wonder what our government thinks its citizens are. They jump from one irrelevant issue to another. Take, for instance, the Labour Congress. They're a group of individuals easily silenced with minor incentives. Now, the government is proposing to merge Junior Secondary School (JSS) and Senior Secondary School (SSS) into a single 12-year education system before tertiary education. This isn't a new concept; it's been the norm, except for some private schools that accelerate their students' progress without following the proper sequence. A student in primary school writes the common entrance examination and proceeds to JSS1. The same student then moves from JSS3 to SS1 and writes the SSCE exams in SS2. Consequently, they enter university with inadequate knowledge. Cu...

Sometimes, the walls that trap us are the ones we draw ourselves. I recall a time when I felt suffocated, stuck in a never-ending cycle of negativity. I was holding onto something that I should have let go of long ago, but somehow, it still lingered, haunting me like a ghost. Every so often, I'd find myself relating to it, sucked back into the vortex of self-pity and despair. I'd beat myself up over every little thing, and it was exhausting. My self-worth was taking a beating, and it was affecting every aspect of my life. Every decision I made, every interaction I had, seemed to trigger this toxic cycle. But here's the thing: our minds are far more powerful than we give them credit for. They can be our greatest allies or our worst enemies. Our minds can enslave us or set us free. They can fill us with joy or consume us with sadness. They can bring us peace or chaos. The key is to recognize the power of our minds and take control of them. We must learn to guide our thoughts,...

All this while, I never doubted what we have. The peace and serenity I get from our relationship is overwhelming. My instincts have never failed me, and I trust them fully because I'm in great alignment with them. That's why I'm holding on, even when doubts creep into my head. I still hold strong, and I wonder why. Whatever this is, I pray it's for our goodwill. I never thought you cheated; you never gave me a reason to think so. Or am I just non-reactive to it? No, I hate sharing my personal belongings. But whatever you've done is working. Your sense of responsibility, acceptance, and willingness to put in the effort have made a significant difference. With you, I've forgotten – or maybe even regret – the four years of turbulence I endured. If I'm not careful, you'll be a dream come true, because moments with you are worth it. For now, I have no regrets, and I pray you won't give me any. I appreciate the alpha-male qualities you possess. With you, I...

 I thought I knew what love was, but I was wrong. Unexplainable, I find it. Or am I exaggerating? Years ago, I thought I had seen the best side of love, but now I'm rewriting it. It feels so different; the peace I find in it now can't be compared to the joy a lender gets when their debtor pays up their debt. Again, I say, I hope I'm not exaggerating. Uncertainty happens, and this joy I feel can vanish like a bursted hot air balloon. Still, I hope it lasts and isn't just a fantasy for the moment. I lack spoken words to express my emotions, but give me a pen and paper, and I'll drown you in an ocean of love. I love you just as the uniformity of the four-letter word "LOVE" came together to give the word its meaning. Loving you is a habit, and the joy I get when I behold your sight is unmatched. Your smile sends a resounding hope of true love and a constant reminder of how handsome you look wearing that smile. Even the purest medicated glasses can't see ho...

My trust issues often get the better of me. Even small things can trigger my mind to wander, and before I know it, my head is spinning, and my heart is racing with anger. But then I realize, they didn't do anything wrong. It's just my past experiences playing tricks on my mind. I've come to understand that bad relationships can be a hard pill to swallow. It's not just limited to romantic relationships; it can be with friends or family members too. Sometimes, a past experience can leave a lasting impression, and even the slightest reminder can trigger a reaction. Having close female friends, like my peers do, seems like a wonderful experience. They get to do things together, hang out, party, and support each other. I've always wanted to have something like that, but for me, it's been a struggle. I recall a story about a female friend I had. What happened between us was a turning point for me. I realized I had to draw the line and prioritize my own emotional well-...

Have you ever experienced inner peace? Let me take you on a journey to discover it. Inner peace is a state where you feel complete, happy, and confident. You feel enough for yourself, even when you have little or nothing. You worry less or never about things that weighed you down before. Unfortunately, our society undervalues the importance of inner peace. We often confuse it with superficial happiness or smiling. But inner peace comes from within; it can't be found outside of yourself. Every day, we encounter people who carry negativity, bitterness, anger, and unforgiveness like a badge of honor. They seek to offload their emotions onto others, often recruiting unsuspecting victims. You know these people - they're the ones who walk around with a scowl on their face, looking for someone to devour. But here's the thing: you can't control how others behave, but you can control how you respond. When someone tries to dump their negativity on you, greet them with kindness an...

"People come into your life for different reasons, some for a season, others for a lifetime. Some bring positivity and growth, while others may leave without making a lasting impact. But then there are those who leave a mark, teaching you valuable lessons, exposing you to new experiences, and helping you discover your flaws and weaknesses. I've met many people in my life, each with their own unique story and purpose. Some have been a blessing, while others have been a challenge. But only a few have left a lasting impression, and I'm grateful for the ones who have added value to my life. They've taught me, guided me, and helped me grow into the person I am today. One person in particular has been a blessing in my life, and I'm still in awe of the positive impact they've had on me. They've shown me that true friendship is possible, and that having someone by your side who cares about you deeply is a treasure. At times, I wonder if it's too good to be true...

 Innocent me, fell into the world of imagination Gradually came reality Loving the feeling and getting relaxed Sense of satisfaction freely moving Echoes of love in the air As a lover of love, I find satisfaction Butterflies in my belly now and then  Now comes the thought of Happy ending Then it came, gazing at me like a fool I thought But that my reality there Purging that good feeling out of me Extracting everything without pity And it's done Reality faced me full time  Turning off the bright light I had Turning me to a baby, Who cries at the first breath of life cause it's painful but it's my reality I can't run from. So I dealt with it.   My reality it was, my happiness now. Just as a water wave moves freely without obstruction, so is my love for you moves. I guess I'm beginning to trust this feeling but the fear in me won't let be.  Fear of heartbreak keeps ringing, like an endless bell of remind.  Stares at me, reminding me how broken I was befor...

 "Bad relationships are indeed a hard pill to swallow, leaving me feeling alone in my head and wandering aimlessly. One minute I'm in love, and the next, I fear being left for someone else. Can I ever heal? Will this fear ever vanish? Can I overcome this trauma and insecurity? I question whether I truly know myself, feeling lost and uncertain. I don't wish this pain on anyone; the thoughts linger, and moments of emotional blackmail, gaslighting, and feelings of being run over haunt me. I've lost myself, my security, esteem, and self-respect in the name of love. Yet, I'm a free person, deserving of love and good company. I long for a partner who will love and accept me for who I am, without judgment or condition. I struggle to trust others, fearing judgment and exclusion. I crave a confidant, someone to run to when bothered, cry with, and share my all without fear of judgment. But is this possible? I wonder if I'll find such a man. My biggest fear is ending up w...