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 Relationships are fun to be and should be healthy but just as every other thing, There's time for everything and getting into a romantic relationship at a very young age has numerous dangers. Relationship can have both positive and negative effects on individuals especially during adolescent and young adult. The following are potential dangers of early relationship  1.   Lack Of Self Control: Many adolescent especially the ones that just emerged puberty tends to have a rise in need and want of the opposite sex (always wanting to be around). With the rise in regulation of certain hormones like Testosterone, Dopamine, Oxytocin and Estrogen, it becomes so demanding and at this point there's this THIN line between self control & self loss. Many got it all lost due to lack of parental guidance, fear of the unknown and peer group influence and pressure. Adolescent at the stage, steps into sexual urge and desire which is natural and normal. Now engaging in an early relation...

 The love, dating and relationship world is inherently complicated. this minute you're okay but the next minute is uncertain. I will keep kicking against bad relationships regardless of the type, it's hard to forget , experience keep crawling in at every interval especially the bad/hurtful ones.  I thought this experiences will make me a better person but it's not. Involuntarily I react to unnecessary things because of it and at the end I begin to regret..... Each time I realized how I was bad treated, tears keep rolling down my eyes, I was never a priority but deep in my head I thought was even with everything happening but stuck headed me remained there but you won't blame me, I find it difficult to walk away more like I was chained. My heart is broken and I still ask if I will love like before, freely but now I have to tell myself the truth. I love without emotions, emotions only come at interval and no matter how hard it comes I find a way to tame it. I don't wa...

  I'm Guilty: Why I Need to Rethink My Relationship Expectations As I sit here reflecting on my relationship expectations, I'm forced to confront some uncomfortable truths. I've always believed that a partner should be able to provide for me, to shower me with gifts and attention. But the reality is, I'm not exactly in a position to be making demands. I'm broke, just like the guys I claim to be too good for   The Hypocrisy of My Expectations is   I've always said that I couldn't date a broke guy, that I needed someone who could take care of me which is not a bad idea but the question is, WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO BETTER YOURSELF? But when I really think about it, that's not only unfair, it's also unrealistic. I'm not exactly rolling in dough myself, so why should I expect someone else to be?  In our days today, relationships, both romantic and non-romantic are seen as a full time job where you must get everything at ease without working for it. Just ...

The Power of Real Love In a world where heartbreak and disappointment can be overwhelming, it's easy to lose faith in love. However, I firmly believe in the transformative power of real love.   What is Real Love? For me, love is not just a feeling, but a state of being. It's the sense of being fully yourself, feeling confident and motivated to grow. Real love is not transactional; it's not about what you can gain or lose. It's about finding someone who accepts and supports you for who you are. The Misconception of Love Many people believe that love requires material possessions or financial security. While these things can certainly make life more comfortable, they are not the foundation of real love. Love is about connection, understanding, and mutual growth.   Can Love Exist Without Meeting Material Needs? This is a common question, and one that I'd like to address. While it's true that our basic needs must be met, real love is not solely dependent on material...

All this while, I never doubted what we have. The peace and serenity I get from our relationship is overwhelming. My instincts have never failed me, and I trust them fully because I'm in great alignment with them. That's why I'm holding on, even when doubts creep into my head. I still hold strong, and I wonder why. Whatever this is, I pray it's for our goodwill. I never thought you cheated; you never gave me a reason to think so. Or am I just non-reactive to it? No, I hate sharing my personal belongings. But whatever you've done is working. Your sense of responsibility, acceptance, and willingness to put in the effort have made a significant difference. With you, I've forgotten – or maybe even regret – the four years of turbulence I endured. If I'm not careful, you'll be a dream come true, because moments with you are worth it. For now, I have no regrets, and I pray you won't give me any. I appreciate the alpha-male qualities you possess. With you, I...

 I thought I knew what love was, but I was wrong. Unexplainable, I find it. Or am I exaggerating? Years ago, I thought I had seen the best side of love, but now I'm rewriting it. It feels so different; the peace I find in it now can't be compared to the joy a lender gets when their debtor pays up their debt. Again, I say, I hope I'm not exaggerating. Uncertainty happens, and this joy I feel can vanish like a bursted hot air balloon. Still, I hope it lasts and isn't just a fantasy for the moment. I lack spoken words to express my emotions, but give me a pen and paper, and I'll drown you in an ocean of love. I love you just as the uniformity of the four-letter word "LOVE" came together to give the word its meaning. Loving you is a habit, and the joy I get when I behold your sight is unmatched. Your smile sends a resounding hope of true love and a constant reminder of how handsome you look wearing that smile. Even the purest medicated glasses can't see ho...

My trust issues often get the better of me. Even small things can trigger my mind to wander, and before I know it, my head is spinning, and my heart is racing with anger. But then I realize, they didn't do anything wrong. It's just my past experiences playing tricks on my mind. I've come to understand that bad relationships can be a hard pill to swallow. It's not just limited to romantic relationships; it can be with friends or family members too. Sometimes, a past experience can leave a lasting impression, and even the slightest reminder can trigger a reaction. Having close female friends, like my peers do, seems like a wonderful experience. They get to do things together, hang out, party, and support each other. I've always wanted to have something like that, but for me, it's been a struggle. I recall a story about a female friend I had. What happened between us was a turning point for me. I realized I had to draw the line and prioritize my own emotional well-...

"People come into your life for different reasons, some for a season, others for a lifetime. Some bring positivity and growth, while others may leave without making a lasting impact. But then there are those who leave a mark, teaching you valuable lessons, exposing you to new experiences, and helping you discover your flaws and weaknesses. I've met many people in my life, each with their own unique story and purpose. Some have been a blessing, while others have been a challenge. But only a few have left a lasting impression, and I'm grateful for the ones who have added value to my life. They've taught me, guided me, and helped me grow into the person I am today. One person in particular has been a blessing in my life, and I'm still in awe of the positive impact they've had on me. They've shown me that true friendship is possible, and that having someone by your side who cares about you deeply is a treasure. At times, I wonder if it's too good to be true...

 Innocent me, fell into the world of imagination Gradually came reality Loving the feeling and getting relaxed Sense of satisfaction freely moving Echoes of love in the air As a lover of love, I find satisfaction Butterflies in my belly now and then  Now comes the thought of Happy ending Then it came, gazing at me like a fool I thought But that my reality there Purging that good feeling out of me Extracting everything without pity And it's done Reality faced me full time  Turning off the bright light I had Turning me to a baby, Who cries at the first breath of life cause it's painful but it's my reality I can't run from. So I dealt with it.   My reality it was, my happiness now. Just as a water wave moves freely without obstruction, so is my love for you moves. I guess I'm beginning to trust this feeling but the fear in me won't let be.  Fear of heartbreak keeps ringing, like an endless bell of remind.  Stares at me, reminding me how broken I was befor...

 "Bad relationships are indeed a hard pill to swallow, leaving me feeling alone in my head and wandering aimlessly. One minute I'm in love, and the next, I fear being left for someone else. Can I ever heal? Will this fear ever vanish? Can I overcome this trauma and insecurity? I question whether I truly know myself, feeling lost and uncertain. I don't wish this pain on anyone; the thoughts linger, and moments of emotional blackmail, gaslighting, and feelings of being run over haunt me. I've lost myself, my security, esteem, and self-respect in the name of love. Yet, I'm a free person, deserving of love and good company. I long for a partner who will love and accept me for who I am, without judgment or condition. I struggle to trust others, fearing judgment and exclusion. I crave a confidant, someone to run to when bothered, cry with, and share my all without fear of judgment. But is this possible? I wonder if I'll find such a man. My biggest fear is ending up w...