Love Beyond Materialism: My Journey To Redefining Relationships

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 I'm Guilty: Why I Need to Rethink My Relationship Expectations

As I sit here reflecting on my relationship expectations, I'm forced to confront some uncomfortable truths. I've always believed that a partner should be able to provide for me, to shower me with gifts and attention. But the reality is, I'm not exactly in a position to be making demands. I'm broke, just like the guys I claim to be too good for




 The Hypocrisy of My Expectations is 

I've always said that I couldn't date a broke guy, that I needed someone who could take care of me which is not a bad idea but the question is, WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO BETTER YOURSELF? But when I really think about it, that's not only unfair, it's also unrealistic. I'm not exactly rolling in dough myself, so why should I expect someone else to be? 

In our days today, relationships, both romantic and non-romantic are seen as a full time job where you must get everything at ease without working for it. Just your curvy, hourglass body or probably beautiful face is your resumé to earn all that. Wake up dearie! Would you want to be like that in your 40s? This popular saying of THERE'S DIGNITY IN LABOUR is never a lie. There's this joy you get when you earn legitimately regardless of your gender. 

I've been guilty of putting pressure on my partners to provide for me, to buy me things I want but can't afford, it no bad if the can afford it but shouldn't be an entitlement. And if they can't deliver, I've made them feel like they're not good enough. But the truth is, relationships aren't about what you can get from someone else; they're about what you can give.

A Lesson in Gratitude

I've been so focused on what I don't have that I've forgotten to appreciate what I do have. I've got a partner who loves me, who cares for me, and who wants to make me happy. And that's worth more than any amount of money or material possessions.

It's time for me to rethink my expectations, to realize that relationships aren't about what you can get, but about what you can give. It's time for me to focus on building a connection with someone, rather than focusing on what they can provide for me.

I'm not the only one who's guilty of having unrealistic expectations in relationships. I'm sure there are plenty of others out there who are just as guilty as I am. So let's make a pact to rethink our expectations, to focus on building meaningful connections with others, rather than focusing on what we can get from them.




Relationships are about give and take, about building a connection with someone and creating a life together. They're not about what you can get from someone else, but about what you can give. It's time for me to rethink my expectations and focus on building a meaningful connection with someone. I hope you'll join me on this journey.

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