Trapped In a Cycle Of Fear And Doubt: Can I Ever Find True Love?

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 "Bad relationships are indeed a hard pill to swallow, leaving me feeling alone in my head and wandering aimlessly. One minute I'm in love, and the next, I fear being left for someone else. Can I ever heal? Will this fear ever vanish? Can I overcome this trauma and insecurity? I question whether I truly know myself, feeling lost and uncertain.

I don't wish this pain on anyone; the thoughts linger, and moments of emotional blackmail, gaslighting, and feelings of being run over haunt me. I've lost myself, my security, esteem, and self-respect in the name of love. Yet, I'm a free person, deserving of love and good company. I long for a partner who will love and accept me for who I am, without judgment or condition.



I struggle to trust others, fearing judgment and exclusion. I crave a confidant, someone to run to when bothered, cry with, and share my all without fear of judgment. But is this possible? I wonder if I'll find such a man.

My biggest fear is ending up with a bitter, insecure, and manipulative partner. I yearn for an average, happy, and secured man who is contented  and wants more. Relating my past to my present, I remind myself that Edmond is not Gerald, but the thoughts linger, and I fight back tears of fear.

How do I condition my mind to accept that I'm with someone now, but they can leave at any time? It's hard! Am I a deep and soft lover, or is love not for me? This good girl in me needs to become stronger."

  To achieve this, I need to focus on self-love and self-care. I need to learn to love myself first, to prioritize my own happiness and well-being. I need to surround myself with positive people who uplift and support me. And I need to be patient, knowing that true love will come when the time is right.

If you've been through similar experiences, please know you're not alone. Let's support each other in our journey towards healing and finding true love. Share your stories, your fears, and your hopes. Together, we can rise above the darkness and find the love we deserve."

Comments

  1. IfychikaodiliNovember 21, 2024 at 10:20 PM

    You're not alone.

    I think we all have had our fair share.....
    Most times I get scared, when he says he loves me, my head asks for how long??

    I think it's a phrase and soon I will find a man that would love me in a way I deserve and want to be Loved.

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